Tools to Control Jealousy

Jealousy is an emotion that is triggered in different situations. Romantic jealousy occurs when an individual in a couple feels that he is losing the relationship to a rival. Sibling jealousy can occur due to continual rivalry. Jealousy encompasses a complex spectrum of feelings that include anger, frustration, hurt and betrayal. This set of feelings can cause individuals to behave in aggressive or overly emotional ways. People can use a variety of techniques to regulate their emotions when they are in the throes of a jealous reaction.
  1. Proactive Problem Resolution

    • Researchers at the University of Illinois recommend proactive problem resolution as a technique for controlling jealous feelings. Determine all your options within a given situation. If you feel that your partner is betraying you, you can choose to confront her, leave the relationship or talk to a counselor. If you are jealous of a classmate or colleague, you can determine why you feel inadequate and build up your confidence in those arenas by taking classes, developing skills and focusing on your own life.

    Psychological Evaluations

    • Researchers at UCLA have found that morbid jealousy can be a manifestation of OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) and is more prevalent in men. Psychological evaluations can help determine whether obsessively jealous behavior is due to a specific disorder that can be treated with medication.

    Developing Self-Worth

    • Confidence and strong feelings of self-worth help people cope with jealous feelings. Individuals should focus on developing their self-worth by becoming independently happy with their lives. Develop an independent career in something you love. Set and achieve goals on a daily basis. Aspire to accomplish goals for yourself. Provide yourself with things to focus on that are not dependent on the behavior of another human being.

    Selective Ignoring

    • Psychology Today suggests that "selective ignoring" is successfully used as a coping tool for jealous feelings. This is when the individual decides that the object of his jealousy is not important enough to waste emotion over. De-emphasizing the importance of the situation or relationship can be a good way to let jealous feelings go.

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