Treat yourself with respect and kindness. Do not criticize your body, hair, abilities or put yourself down in any way. When thinking or talking about your goals, use positive language, such as "I will be successful" or "It will work out for the best." If you are in a difficult situation, recognize and believe that everything is temporary and nothing is permanent. Whenever possible, step away from the situation and ask yourself if it will matter in 10 years time. As you change your perspective, you become more flexible and open to positive change.
Start a gratitude journal. Each day write down at least three positive events or circumstances for which you are grateful. At first, it may be difficult, but if you continue this practice, you may find the list becomes longer each day. Also, as you focus on the positive aspects of your life, you begin to pay less attention to the negative aspects.
Surround yourself with positive and supportive people. Find role models who have already achieved the goals you seek. These people can provide advice, comfort and reassurance as you implement your goals. When you associate with successful people, you think more positively and feel inspired to act decisively. Limit your dealings with negative people who belittle or dismiss your goals.
Do not limit yourself to activities that you have already mastered. Get out of your comfort zone and set new goals. Break down those goals into more manageable ones and take a few baby steps. For example, if you want to run a marathon, start by joining a running club. Set an initial goal of entering a 5K run in a few months time. As you take action, your fear and doubts begin to diminish and your self-confidence increases.
Pay attention to personal grooming and body language. Wear clothes that enhance your strong points and distract attention from less flattering parts. Watch your posture whenever sitting or standing. Do not slump in a chair or walk with your head down. When you stand tall, you look more attractive and feel more confident.