Think about people you admire and want to be like. Reflect on your talents, interests and circumstances. Decide what you want for your future, focusing on your career, family and lifestyle.
Work toward realistic goals. You won't be able to attain your ideal future immediately but reachable goals will help you progress toward it. Be practical. Think about what studies and experience you need to qualify for your ideal career. Decide what part of the country is best for the life you want to lead. Think about what social groups will connect you with the type of person you want to start a family with. Set goals and take the steps necessary to accomplish them.
Ask for help from people in the field you want to penetrate. They can give you suggestions about how to prepare. Sometimes they can help you find a position or internship that will broaden your experience and help you find work contacts.
Be grateful for the life you have. If you develop the personal qualities, characteristics and values you want to identify you, you can make a difference on the people around you and your life will have meaning even if you never reach your ideal.