When you need to talk with preschoolers about their behavior, kneel down to their level. This will show them respect and allow you to make eye contact during your conversation. You should ask for their full attention and eye contact as well. Approach children in a calm manner, getting close enough that you won't need to raise your voice. The way you approach preschoolers will set the tone for a conversation about their behavior. Stop yourself from overreacting and causing further inappropriate behavior.
Use positive reinforcement when talking with preschoolers about good and bad behavior. When children accomplish goals or exhibit kindness, praise them by calling out the specific behavior and expressing pride. Also use positive language when recognizing inappropriate behavior in preschoolers. For example, to address a child who throws a ball in the classroom, say to him, "You need to throw the ball outside only," rather than, "Don't throw the ball." The positive statement will give the child guidance and avoid a negative interaction.
Consider the age and language development of preschool children when speaking with them about their behaviors. Using short sentences and one-syllable words will help you to clearly communicate with them. Mention your main points first while you still have their attention. After expressing your concerns about their behavior, state your expectations and ask children to repeat them back to you. This will help them retain the messages.
When addressing inappropriate behavior of preschoolers, let them know why they made bad choices by explaining consequences. You might tell them the way certain actions will affect them personally along with those around them. For example, when a child snatches a toy from a classmate, express to her how that makes the other child feel and let her know it may lead to peers not wanting to play with her anymore. You should also point out to children how their positive actions make others feel good.