Stay informed about what is and what should be going on at your child's school or day care center each day. Your child's teacher will respect your complaints more if they know you as not only a concerned, but an involved parent as well.
Find out all the circumstances behind any situations or conflicts that may arise. Try not to use your child as a solitary source of information. Teachers, administrators and other parents can also be good sources of information.
Begin your conversation or criticism by saying something positive about the institution, the teachers or the benefits your child is receiving.
Concentrate criticism on the action or incident, not on the people involved. This will lessen the "offense factor" that is possible when you criticize their child care or teaching methods.
Express some empathy for the person under the microscope. Use personal examples to demonstrate you understand his or her feelings and situation.
Focus on the possible solutions you have thought of that could be implemented. Demonstrate that you are willing to be a part of the solution.
Reaffirm your confidence in your child's school or day care center. Try to end the conversation on a positive note, looking forward to a new start.