Identify the source of the problem. For instance, if you have a conflict with a co-worker about how to handle a work project, identify exactly how your vision conflicts with that of the other person. You need a complete view of the overall issue before you attempt to address the problem.
Seek understanding of the other person's personality and how he prefers to approach certain matters. For instance, some people like to have calm discussions, while others may prefer a more lively debate. Observe the person in action with people who he communicates with effectively and take notes. Once have an idea of the other party's communication style, you may have more success working with him to resolve your issues.
Ask for a face-to-face meeting with the other person with whom you're conflicting. Sometimes communicating online or over the phone can hinder effective communication, because the other person cannot see your body language and expressions to accurately gauge your message. Dr. Alex Lickerman, a physician at the University of Chicago, says that when we use electronic mail instead of face-to-face meetings, we "often find ourselves sending a different message than we intended and breeding more confusion than we realize."
Allow the other person to communicate his feelings, needs and desires in the meeting. Allow the person to talk and express himself completely---do not interrupt. You must actively listen, which means that the other person has your undivided attention and you are actually hearing what he has to say. Poor listening is a major cause of ineffective communication. When it's your time to talk express the same needs and desires so that the other person can understand.
Identify where your ideals conflict and then work together to come to a compromise. Decide on a final resolution that both of you find satisfactory. Also explain your communication style and discuss how you both can find more success in the future when communicating and working together.