Setting personal goals gives you something to work toward. You accept responsibility for the work and planning it takes to reach those goals for your own well-being and satisfaction. Write down larger goals first. Life goals should be broad and allow for change as your life circumstances and choices come into play. However, knowing that there are several ways to achieve a goal is important. Write down smaller personal goals that help you work up to the larger one. For instance, if your life goal is to live as a traveler, create smaller goals in relation to work and your everyday life that will allow you to move around.
Designing a realistic schedule for yourself can help you attain your goals and keep you a responsible worker, student and loved one. Failing to organize your time can result in undo stress and inability to fulfill your obligations, which inevitably will impact your performance at work or school and your personal relationships. Create a daily schedule with all your tasks, appointments, classes and meetings listed. Give yourself enough unplanned time in between to account for unforeseen circumstances, such as a flat tire. Each day should somehow work up to your larger goals.
Keep track of the things you accomplish, whether it be mowing the lawn or finishing a report. Acknowledging your accomplishments gives you satisfaction and the motivation to keep accepting responsibility when opportunities arise and you are not too busy to pursue them. Completing tasks also ensures unfinished projects don't accumulate, causing stress and a lapse in confidence.
Accepting responsibility also requires being able to recognize your problem areas and mistakes, whether it be in an area of study or in a personal relationship. Separating yourself and identity from the action allows you to more objectively assess if an action toward a friend, for instance, was inappropriate or if you need to work on a technical skill you're lacking in. Communicating this to the other party, if applicable, notifies him that you understand you have a responsibility to keep the relationship healthy, and it may alleviate feelings of guilt. Make plans for alternative actions in the future or ways to improve problem areas.
Helping out in the local community or just around the house can help you accept responsibility and learn new skills. Take care of a pet, read to kids at the library or take on a chore or two from a household member with a heavy load. Not only will you be accountable to another person or group of people, but you will likely be valued and appreciated. It also instills a sense of self-worth and social responsibility that can positively influence your other responsibilities and goals.