One of the first places a middle schooler can go if he is having difficulty with a peer is to a trusted teacher. Because middle schoolers are changing classes throughout the day, encourage your child to develop positive relationships with the teachers with whom he feels most comfortable. Knowing he has an advocate he can turn to during the school day can make handling peer problems easier.
One of the best ways to help middles schoolers cope with peer problems is to develop their own self-confidence. According to the School Family website, students who feel good about themselves are less likely to give in to peer pressure or have problems relating to other students. Validating your child’s opinion, encouraging his decision-making ability and encouraging him to share his views about the things you both are interested in are all ways to encourage self-confidence in your middle schooler.
Peer mediation programs at middle schools are a great way to help kids learn the skills they need to deal with peer problems. Encouraging your child to become a peer mediator will help him use what he learns in training to help others solve their problems. The Center for Social and Emotional Education points out that peer mediation helps students learn to resolve their differences and conflicts in non-violent ways and is a powerful and effective youth-leadership model.
Encouraging your child to take part in positive, community-building activities at school is another way to help him learn to deal with peers. Positive clubs and organizations that promote learning how to get along with others can help create a school environment where peer problems are the exception rather than the rule. The School Family website recommends getting your child involved in activities so that he is surrounded by peers that share his interests.