Learn exactly what special education is. Understand the concept of special education through a professional definition and description. The United States Department of Education's Individuals with Disabilities Act website has an excellent method for identifying specific learning disabilities.
Learn the expectations for children at various stages of development. Know what an appropriate developmental milestone is at a specific age and what are considered delays or gaps in physical and academic development. The University of Michigan's Health System has an informative article in their online library about developmental milestones in children and adolescents.
Talk to professionals. If your child is in school, go to the counselor or teacher. If your child is too young for school, look for child psychologists or educational psychologists in the area who specialize in testing. Special education testing within the public school system is free.
Do not overreact. It may be a very stressful time for you and your children. If your behavior reflects anxiety or misgivings, your child picks up on this.
Remain positive. If you find your child needs special education services, this is not a time to give up hope. When special needs are identified, realize one step is out of the way and many more of your questions will be answered as the process continues. Plans and accommodations are now in place to help your child succeed.
Know the law. Children who are identified as needing special education are afforded special rights under the law.