There are many common traits among people who are bullied, according to Dan Olweus, a bullying expert. They often have low self-esteem and can have health issues, such as a nervous stomach. Children who are bullied at school will feel anxious and nervous when at school. They can have problems concentrating because they do not feel safe, which can lead to bad grades. People who are bullied often become socially isolated, withdrawn and depressed.
All bullies are not the same, but Olweus notes common traits among many. He explains that people who bully tend to get into a lot of fights, vandalize property or steal, get bad grades, drink alcohol or smoke and carry a weapon. Some bullies are the opposite and get along well with teachers and adults and are highly skilled socially. KidsHealth estimates that one out of every four elementary school bullies will have a criminal record by age 30. Dominating another person makes bullies feel powerful.
Cyberbullying is a form of bullying that is on the rise. A bully can harass someone via text, email or by posting hurtful comments on a social network site. This has led to a whole new breed of bully; they don't actually have to bully someone face to face. They can say harmful things about the person that they would not be brave enough to say in person. Some bullies forget that these forms of bullying leave traces, proof of incidents that can be used against them.
Schools have been developing written policies to address the problem of bullying. Teachers and students discuss bullying and how to deal with it in classrooms. If you think your child is being bullied, communication is key. Let your child know that it is safe for him to talk to you. Once you discover what is happening, contact the school. Start with a teacher or a guidance counselor, and work together to solve the problem.