* Academics: Look at their course offerings, AP/IB programs, graduation rates, college acceptance rates, and teacher quality. You'd need to research this information directly from the schools or through state-level resources like the New Jersey Department of Education website.
* School Culture: The overall atmosphere, student body diversity, and extracurricular activities all contribute to the school experience. Visiting both schools (if possible) and talking to current students would provide valuable insight.
* Specific Programs: Does one school have a stronger program in a particular area that aligns with your interests (e.g., arts, STEM, etc.)?
Regarding Sports and Girls:
Both Toms River East and Toms River North have strong athletic programs with many successful teams. The quality of a team fluctuates year to year depending on the athletes involved. Looking at recent athletic records on their school websites can provide some insight, but overall success doesn't define the whole student experience.
The "girls" aspect is subjective and depends on your own preferences. Both schools have a diverse student population, and the social dynamics within each school will vary. There's no objective measure of which school has "better" girls.
In short: Don't rely on generalized opinions about which school is "better." Do your research, visit the schools, and consider what's important *to you* to make the best decision.