Navigating college is very different from high school. Students are treated as adults and are expected to be responsible and independent. In addition, academic rigor is elevated to a new level. It isn’t uncommon for students to have difficulty right from the start and begin to wonder if they really belong in college. Your support and encouragement is critical. In every conversation you have with your student, try to infuse a sense of positivity and empowerment. Your confidence in their ability may be just enough to help them through.
Sometimes students are not sure where to turn for help. If you have a student who is struggling in college, check out the university website for resources that may be of help. For example, most colleges have a center for academic success or a help center that provides tutoring and workshops on time management and study skills. Students often need a nudge to check out what is available. Suggest that your student make contact with faculty members to let them know they are having trouble. It is important to the college faculty and staff that each student is successful. They can’t provide assistance if they don’t know it is needed.
If your student contacts you in despair, jump right in and encourage them to create a plan of action. They may believe it is too late but you can help by inspiring them to search for solutions. Start by having them inventory each class and include their current grade, what resources are available for help and if they have contacted their professor. It is critical that your student take responsibility for this task. Your role is to provide suggestions; their role is to make them happen.
College isn’t for everyone. If your student isn’t taking responsibility and continuing college does not seem like a good option, suggest a break from the action. Perhaps the opportunity to step out of school will provide a chance for some self-reflection and soul searching. Sometimes a student needs time to re-think their career goals and work in a job until they are confident that college is the best choice. It is not uncommon for students who stop out to return to college with a new attitude and zeal for success.