- Power, Domination, and Love: Relational Theory of Self and Object (1993)
- Interview Techniques for Relational Psychotherapists (1998)
- Passionate Intimacy (2000)
- Attachment Processes in Couple and Family Therapy (2003)
- Relational Group Psychotherapy (2010)
- The Relational Self in Early Childhood (2012)
- The Relational Turn: Developing Awareness in Psychotherapy and Everyday Life (2016)
- The Heart of Psychotherapy: Relational Perspectives on Love and Change (2020)
Articles and Chapters
- "The Relational Self: Exploring the Relationship Between the Self and Others" (1992)
- "Attachment and the Psychotherapeutic Relationship: Implications for Theory and Technique" (1994)
- "The Development of Relational Theory: Integrating Attachment Theory and Self Psychology" (1995)
- "Relational Perspectives on Power, Domination, and Love" (1997)
- "Attachment and the Relational Self: Implications for Couple Therapy" (1998)
- "The Relational Self and the Therapeutic Relationship: Integrating Attachment Theory and Self Psychology" (1999)
- "Passionate Intimacy: Exploring the Boundaries of Love and Passion" (2000)
- "Relational Group Psychotherapy: A Relational Perspective on Group Process" (2010)
- "The Relational Self in Early Childhood: Implications for Development and Psychotherapy" (2012)
- "The Relational Turn: Developing Awareness in Psychotherapy and Everyday Life" (2016)
- "The Heart of Psychotherapy: Relational Perspectives on Love and Change" (2020)