For both partners:
* Respect boundaries: This is HUGE. Listen to your partner when they say no to something, whether it's physical touch, sharing personal information, or spending time together. Respect their need for space and alone time.
* Communicate openly and honestly: Talk about your feelings, your needs, and your concerns. Don't assume your partner knows what you're thinking. Clear communication prevents misunderstandings and fights.
* Be yourself: Don't try to be someone you're not to impress your partner. Authenticity is attractive and builds a stronger, healthier relationship.
* Balance your relationship with other aspects of your life: Middle school is a time for academics, friends, family, and hobbies. Don't let a relationship consume your entire life. Keep a healthy balance.
* Treat your partner with respect: This means being kind, considerate, and supportive. Avoid teasing, bullying, or putting your partner down.
* Be mindful of social media: Be cautious about posting about your relationship online. Over-sharing can lead to problems.
* Understand that it's okay to break up: Sometimes relationships don't work out, and that's okay. Learn from the experience and move on. Treat each other with respect during the breakup. Avoid drama and spreading rumors.
* Seek support from trusted adults: If you're struggling with your relationship, talk to a parent, teacher, counselor, or another trusted adult. They can offer guidance and support.
Things to avoid:
* Pressure: Don't pressure your partner into doing anything they don't want to do.
* Jealousy and possessiveness: Give each other space and trust that you're both committed to the relationship. Excessive jealousy is unhealthy.
* Drama: Middle school relationships can be intense, but try to keep things calm and mature. Avoid public arguments and drama.
* Exclusivity too early: It’s fine to not rush into labeling the relationship immediately. Sometimes it's better to just enjoy getting to know someone.
Remember: Middle school relationships are often short-lived and are primarily about learning and growing. Focus on building healthy communication and respect skills, which will benefit you in all your future relationships. The most important thing is to have fun and enjoy this stage of life while learning about yourself and others.