It’s easy to become defensive when it comes to your child’s academic success, but maintaining a level head will work in your favor when communicating with your child’s teacher. Issues that commonly arise revolve around grades, behavior and interpersonal conflicts. Some of the most emotionally charged parent-teacher meetings happen when there has been a fight in a classroom. To make sure there isn’t another one in the parent-teacher conference, remain non-combative to help things run a little smoother.
Regardless of the issue, it’s important to think logically and properly manage your emotions when you confront your child’s teacher. Try to start parent-teacher conferences on a positive note before delving into the issue. This helps to maintain an environment and atmosphere where the teacher will be less defensive and ready to hear what you have to say.
While it may be easy to lose sight of the issue when things get tense, staying focused is important to resolving things quickly and effectively. Calmly listen to the teacher’s comments so you can learn his side of the issue. Children often act one way at home and completely differently in a school environment. If the issue is regarding grades, bring copies of grade sheets or graded work to show the teacher in case of any discrepancies.
Sometimes a parent-teacher conference doesn’t resolve the issue and it becomes necessary to involve a third party. Requesting a conference with the teacher and an administrator may be necessary to resolve ongoing or complex issues. Maintaining a calm but firm tone is an effective way to address issues you have with your child’s teacher.
Remember, teachers are people just like you, and treating them the way you would like to be treated will help to alleviate some of the stress involved when dealing with sensitive issues. Take some time beforehand to think about what you want to say and then speak honestly and calmly to help you get your point across successfully.