Stating out loud that you understand how a student feels is an important way to encourage and motivate her to keep trying. When a student expresses difficulty with an assignment, do not simply ask her to keep trying. Instead, acknowledge that certain subjects can be hard, and offer suggestions or tips to help her figure out the answers. When a student has a disagreement with a friend or a tough morning at home, let her know that you care and that you understand how hard a bad day can be. Simple words of encouragement can go a long way toward letting your students know you care. Caring words can also encourage them to come to you when they are upset.
In certain instances, such as when you are in the middle of teaching a lesson, verbal acknowledgement of feelings are impossible. You can offer your support and let your students know that you understand what is happening by offering nonverbal acknowledgement. If you see a student struggling to understand what you are teaching, pat her back or offer her an encouraging smile. When a student expresses pride in a job well done, offer her a high five. Younger students may feel your support with a quick hug.
Class discussion is a powerful way to work on feelings as a large group. If you notice that several of your students are having a hard time with a particular subject or if you notice that many students are having a difficult time getting along with each other, call a class meeting. Talk about what is happening and tell your students stories about times you went through similar things. Allow your students to share their feelings and offer one another suggestions to make things better. Acknowledging what your students are going through lets them know that things will improve and that they have a caring adult on their side.
A one-on-one conference allows you time to talk with one student about a topic or event that is troubling her. If you notice a student feeling sad, ask her to stay in from recess for a few minutes and ask her if she would like to talk. Acknowledge her feelings by restating what she says and let her know that it is OK to feel certain ways. Keep an open-door policy in your classroom so your students know they can come to you if they need to talk about private matters. Making time for your students sends the message that their feelings are important to you.