Monitor children when they play and study together. Teachers and parents are responsible for helping children learn to interact and play appropriately; children who are left unattended are more likely to engage in inappropriate behaviors, according to the California Department of Education. Model appropriate behavior at all times, praise children for inclusive behavior and take immediate action when children behave inappropriately. Parents can help children choose appropriate friends and work together with other parents when intervention is necessary because of a child's behavior.
Define and identify both correct and incorrect behaviors with children in a group setting. Together, make a list of what is appropriate, friendly conduct, and what is not. For example, children might say "encouragement," "including others" and "being nice" are positive behaviors, while "hitting," "tripping," "name calling" and "writing mean notes" are bullying behaviors. Once children understand what it means to tease and bully, ask them to write a letter promising never to engage in those activities and to report such behavior to an adult immediately if they witness it.
Allow children to participate in choosing consequences for bullying and teasing, if appropriate, so they understand the punishment. Enforce the consequences immediately; bullies who are left unchecked may develop more aggressive behaviors, while victims may develop anxiety, mood swings and discipline problems, the California Department of Education reports. Depending on whether you are a parent, teacher or school administrator, work to expel habitual bullies from school, ground them at home and enroll them in a counseling course aimed specifically toward bullying behaviors. Put bystanders who didn't report the bullying on probation and take away privileges such as playtime with friends, or cell phone and driving privileges for older children.
Form peer groups with children who are most likely to identify and report teasing and bullying. These groups can protect victims of bullying and give them an outlet by allowing them to look out for other victims. Engage in team-building activities, such as going through obstacle courses, that will help them form friendships and develop self-esteem.