They respect him as their children's schoolmaster and the authority figure in their education. However, this respect is often tinged with a certain apprehension, based on Ichabod's gaunt appearance, his somewhat strange personality, and his reputation for being rather strict. They're wary of his methods and may not entirely trust him. Further, because he is dependent on them for food and lodging (as he often relies on "boarding" with different families), they have some level of control over him, which might lead to a slightly condescending attitude – they provide for him, but may not see him as fully their equal. Ultimately their treatment is dictated by their practicality and the social norms of the time, as much as by personal feelings.